To you and your sister...

I just received an amazing email. It was so true and so spot on. The silence is what is welcomed and is what is helpful. There are no words.

So as a guest blog for the evening, the email I received which was addressed to Sara and myself:

You know it's funny how something written for one person can have the same exact meaning for another. How the sadness and numbness that comes along in life can affect two people in such similar yet different ways. I was listening to a song on Linkin Park's new CD earlier (lyrics below) and it made me think of the two of you. Two people who are not sisters because of blood or adoption but because of love. It's one of those things in life that happen for so very few and only those few are able to understand what a gift it truly is.

I haven't really said much to either of you about what you've been dealing with. Silence is usually better. Silence is usually what people want. But it's not really just about silence, it's about not knowing. To speak about such a tragedy as if one knows how it feels is stupid and ridiculous and rude and not something I'm going to do. Instead, I am just going to say what I've said from the beginning. That one day the numbness you now feel will hopefully be less numb and that I hope you never lose the feeling of loss you feel now. Yes I know that last part may sound like a typo but something Rachel said in her blog the other day inspired it. To be able to remember her and know that love and remember that love for the rest of your lives is, like the love between sisters, something you both will cherish. To you both - i love you, I'm there for you, and just remember that you have each other. You have your sister.

The promised lyrics...

The Messenger Lyrics


When you feel you're alone
cut off from this cruel world
your instincts telling you to run

listen to your heart
those angel faces
they'll see you to you
they'll be your guide
back home where life leaves us blind
love keeps us kind
it keeps us kind !

when you suffered it all
and your spirit is breaking
you're growing desperate from the fight

Remember your love
and you always will be
this melody will always bring
you right back home

When life leaves us blind
Love, keeps us kind!
When life leaves us blind
Love keeps us kind!

Ohhhhhh Ohhhhhhh!
Ohhhhhhh Ohhhhhh!
Ohhhhhh Ohhhhhhh!